Just returned from a crazy weekend down in San Diego with my Leather Family teaching at The Hard Edge. For those who are not aware, The Hard Edge is a space where educators get to push themselves to the max. Normally as presenters we teach 101 or 201 level classes, but in The Hard Edge space we get to present at a 1001 level…. and it really is as intense as it sounds.

Before going in, and all throughout the weekend, we stress that these workshops are NOT intended for beginning level players, we also let attendees know that at NO time will we be offended if they feel the need to walk out of, or take a break during our classes.

Creating our workshops, we discover our limits and boundaries and push our own triggers and buttons so that we can help those in attendance discover theirs and explore the WHY behind their personal buttons.

I was amazingly blessed to be joined by my co-presenter Bryan Teague (American Leatherboy 2010). Over the years I have had the honor of presenting with many talented and incredible folks; Bryan by far is the truest example of these. His humor, wit and intelligence brings a wonderful light and grace to the stage that make it a true delight to join him. It’s rare to have such a cohesive chemistry with someone…. when it happens, each workshop becomes an amazing adventure, filled with fun, excitement and all the things that make our world what it is!

To The Hard Edge Volunteers, Staff, Presenters and Attendees, thank you all for your energy, time and dedication; this event would not be what it is without each of you.

Take care everyone and I look forward to seeing you all soon!

Mistress Shae Flanigan

So a thought occurred to me this morning that many of my clients don’t actually know my business hours. They know that when they call me, I either answer, or it gets routed to voicemail and I call them back as soon as I am able.

For those past almost 2 years now my schedule has become packed to the point that although I “say” that I take Sunday’s for myself, and I “say” that I am an 8-hour of sleep a night woman, that doesn’t in fact happen. During the times that I am not physically in session, I am either answering emails, taking client calls, attending conferences, teaching workshops, working on my website, speaking on college panels, doing photoshoots or any of the other day to day behind the scenes tasks that keep my business and kink education world afloat.

It hasn’t donned on me until very recently, that I have allowed myself to get so caught up in all the amazing fun I’ve been having that I failed to notice the “me” time and rest I so dearly need was slipping away little by little.

This doesn’t mean I’ll be cutting back on my play, workshops or event schedule…. quite the contrary in fact! Starting next week, Sunday will be available for booking sessions, so let the Religious fantasies overflow-ith!

What I will be cutting back on are my available phone hours, so instead of 10:30 – 8:00pm you will now be able to reach me for appointments from 1:00pm – 7:00pm. This will hopefully enable me to separate from my phone and laptop a bit more and make it more possible for me to spend more quality time signed into Nite Flirt for scheduled distance training.

Take care everyone and I look forward to seeing you soon!

Mistress Shae Flanigan 

This year thus far has been a brilliant year of purification and enlightenment. In the mere three weeks of the New Year I have been amazed again and again with how beautifully this year has chosen to resolve issues, redefine stale relationships, simplify clutter and in short CLENSE my life in a variety of wonderful ways.

Brilliantly enough, I’m finding this to be true for many others around me as well. Perhaps 2011 was a year of “staging”…. that tedious time, (much like setting up rows and rows of dominoes with great precision) now  however, we find ourselves primed to tap that single starting piece and finally see all of our work pay off in beautiful arching cascades around us.

2012 is a beautiful year thus far and I hope it is for all of you as well. I know many of us were beaten down by the economy and job crashes, but it seems as though through those crashes we found a strength within ourselves to become greater and stronger without the structures that we had been leaning on for so many years. So now as things begin to stabilize again, we grow even stronger still both internally and externally, this time though with wisdom to invest wiser and cherish our happiness for the treasure it truly is and appreciate all the gifts, whether extravagant or free, that life has to offer.

That internal strength is precisely how this post ties into kink. It’s when we are strong enough to be ourselves and truly embrace and love ourselves… all of our fetishes and kinks included is when we truly are free to enjoy and love life. When we allow ourselves to step free from guilt and shame we truly breathe for the first time. With that freedom and self-love, it doesn’t matter what else happens in life, we will always have happines, joy, passion and amazing kinky times!

So this 2012 I hope your year is cleansed of all the negativity that pulls your down. Make this year a wonderful year for you.

Take care and I look forward to seeing you soon,

Mistress Shae Flanigan

I hope everyone’s 2012 has been starting off as beautifully as mine has! My week has been filled with amazing play and wonderful adventures thus far and it shows no signs of slowing down!

I am thrilled to announce that I will be wrapping up this week in San Diego. I am currently booked today until 7pm (my evening and late evening slots are still available) and Friday-day I still have available (for you daytime folks) but am booked from 7:30 on.

If you are interested in seeing me during this trip would like to fit into my schedule for this trip down, contact me now. After the holiday break I have been in the mood for some deliciously heavy or pampering play…. Current clients may txt, new clients email or call only please.

Take care and see you soon!

Mistress Shae Flanigan