Getting Down and Dirty at OCC

Flogging, STIs and condoms are just a few of the topics at Awareness Day.

Photo by Sarah Borean

Beau Nicolette, Staff Writer

Getting down and dirty at OCC

Mistress Shae, professional dominant, preforms the act of flogging on an OCC student during her speech on Sex Education and Awareness day last week.

Free condoms, student floggings, ‘kinky fuckery,’ and the chorus of ‘wrap it up’ set the scene for a successful Orange Coast College Sex Education Awareness Day last week.

The event was an open, honest and mature discussion among young adults — it was not an awkward birds and the bees talk from the parents — it was how sex should be talked about on a hormone-pulsing college campus.

Three workshops held in the Student Center Lounge headlined the event as well-rounded discussions that covered the basic areas of sex — how to do it disease free, how to spice it up and how to do it safely.

In addition to workshops, organizers hosted vendors such as Planned Parenthood and a free STI testing truck and also handed out sex kits from Condom Revolution that included a condom, lube and a coupon to the store.

The first workshop was centered on sexually transmitted infections and the four panelists answered student questions and dispelled the taboo and fear surrounding STIs.

Two of the panelists were diagnosed with HIV/AIDS and talked about the infection, how it can happen to anyone without proper prevention and how the disease affects their lives.

“You don’t want the consequences. You don’t want to have to live with this everyday for the rest of your life,” Dana Deross said about HIV infection.

Deross spoke to the room of students honestly about the complications of the disease and echoed the other panelists by addressing protection, prevention and communication as the best ways to avoid STIs.

“What you do as a young person is going to come back and haunt you and bite you in the ass,” Deross said. “I don’t care if you’re going out for a one night stand, wrap it up.”

The theme of protection and communication carried over into the second workshop which was centered on the “Fifty Shades of Grey” book series and how it opened the community of bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism to the general public.

Professional dominant Mistress Shae led the BDSM-based discussion and spoke on how BDSM is not a group of sexual deviants — it is just a different way of expressing sexuality.

“A lot of people think they aren’t kinky, they use distancing language like ‘those people,’” Shae said, “but how many people like to have their hair pulled during sex?”

The mistress talked of sexual energy play and kinky fuckery as students shouted out sexual safe words such as chimichanga and ragamuffin and by the end of the talk, two students were flogged by the tightly-dressed mistress.

Students had their own questions clarified by asking them openly and anonymously and the talk helped dispel one professor’s preconceived notion of BDSM.

“It certainly softened my impression and [showed] that the [BDSM] community is diverse, more diverse than I thought,” Jessica Ayo Alabi, an instructor of sociology and gender studies said.

The talk centered on safety and consent and the mistress reiterated that BDSM requires hard boundaries and constant communication between partners — this  is the key to a safe and sexy BDSM experience, she said.

“The biggest thing is before they advance into more intense forms of play, read books, learn what they’re doing because safety is really paramount to everything. So is consent,” Shae said.

Students brought up fetishes and between nervous giggles delved into the mental and emotional side of sex, what the mistress called energy play.

“It makes the sex and love that much better, because when you add other things, you realize you don’t even need the penetration sex – you realize how mental the sex is,” Kaitlin Hubert, 20, a finance and business legal studies major said.

Sex Education Awareness Day had something for everyone as it made HIV/AIDS more approachable, offered free testing, showed the truth of STIs, taught safety and consent and even helped students spice up their love lives.

“Throw a little vibrating ring in, play a little dress up, take time going into sex, get sexy in lingerie and give him a lap dance, tease the shit out of him when you’re at dinner, make him wait for it,” Hubert said on how to spice up sex.