My Experience at DomCon LA


My Experience at DomCon LA

My weekend at DomCon LA could not have been any better than it was.  The beautiful thing about Dom Con is that it is filled with professional kinksters and hardcore lifestyle people.  So you get to be around and mingle with some very wise and experienced players.  For me, I also very much enjoyed meeting so many people for whom this is not just a hobby.  It is a path that they have taken as a means of self exploration, connection, and creative expression.  In other words, they do this work with heart.  That is how I try to live and it is quite validating to see many people who are living that way as well.

I cannot even count the number of awesome people that I got to meet this time around.  I was able to do an absolutely beautiful needle scene with Mistress Shae, who is a Sadist and energy player after my own heart.   I have found that I absolutely love needles and am so excited for more of them!  The energy of our scene was quite sweet, which is funny considering that both Mistress Shae and I are known for being rather extreme and dark in our Sadomasochism and edge play.  But when you follow the energy of a scene, it can take you in many directions, and the energy of this scene seemed to called for delicacy, nurturance, and quiet.  She slid each needle in with incredible grace, following the cycle of my breath.  The needles didn’t hurt the way you think they would.  Believe me, they do hurt, but my body accepted them willingly, making the pain something that was welcomed and treasured…and delicious!  I’m hoping that next time I am in LA I can ask her to do a blood cupping scene with me, which is something that I have been desiring for a long time.

I also won Best in Show at the Pet Show for the second time in a row!  I didn’t think I was going to, but apparently my kitty is pretty good.  I still haven’t named my kitty persona yet.  Mistress Whip named her ‘Slinky Kitty’ the first DomCon I went to but I just don’t think that suits her.   The fabulous Lady Jessica was my handler.  Goddess Phoenix was supposed to be my handler, but had an interview the same time as the pet show, and grabbed Lady Jessica at the last minute.  For being caught off guard, Lady Jessica did an awesome job.  She knew just how to lead me so that I still got to show off my kitty qualities, but still keep me well behaved.  We obviously did something right, because I got the blue ribbon!  What what!

There were two other people that I was especially happy to have been able to connect with.  First was Zonah, who was also a guest of Charly B.  We shared a bed together the whole time, so it was good that we both liked each other so much:)  She is an incredible fetish model and a great big  ball of kickass fun.  Did I mention she is a Hottie MacHotterson?  One of my biggest regrets is that I didn’t get to shoot with her.  But I know it will happen some day:)The second person was Perry Gallagher.  Perry is a huge fan of my derriere, and that was the beginning of our connection, but conversation seemed to spring forth from that.  Not only is he an amazingly talented photographer, but an extremely nice person.  To both of our chagrin, we didn’t get to shoot either.  It just wasn’t that sort of convention.  But he did give me an amazing spanking on Saturday night!  I still have the bruises to prove it:)  I hope to go back out there sooner than later to shoot and visit with him .

All in all, I made some new connections, nurtured old ones, and learned a great deal to help me on my kinky path.  Can’t wait for next year!


No Shades of Grey

It is crystal clear to the experienced gentleman that Misterss Shae is in a league of her own.  Never in my life have I had an experience like I did with Mistress Shae.  From the moment I saw her she took my breath away and still has it.  Her beauty and demeanor are overpowering and it was an honor to meet her.

To you Misterss Shae, thank you for making every bit of the session perfect. Your attention to detail was amazing and to see you in person, surreal,  Please know I will never forget the sound of your voice, the amazing energy I felt in your presence or how amazingly beautiful you are.  It was a gift to have this experience with you.

Until the next time.

Yours …. m

Getting Down and Dirty at OCC

Flogging, STIs and condoms are just a few of the topics at Awareness Day.

Photo by Sarah Borean

Beau Nicolette, Staff Writer

Getting down and dirty at OCC

Mistress Shae, professional dominant, preforms the act of flogging on an OCC student during her speech on Sex Education and Awareness day last week.

Free condoms, student floggings, ‘kinky fuckery,’ and the chorus of ‘wrap it up’ set the scene for a successful Orange Coast College Sex Education Awareness Day last week.

The event was an open, honest and mature discussion among young adults — it was not an awkward birds and the bees talk from the parents — it was how sex should be talked about on a hormone-pulsing college campus.

Three workshops held in the Student Center Lounge headlined the event as well-rounded discussions that covered the basic areas of sex — how to do it disease free, how to spice it up and how to do it safely.

In addition to workshops, organizers hosted vendors such as Planned Parenthood and a free STI testing truck and also handed out sex kits from Condom Revolution that included a condom, lube and a coupon to the store.

The first workshop was centered on sexually transmitted infections and the four panelists answered student questions and dispelled the taboo and fear surrounding STIs.

Two of the panelists were diagnosed with HIV/AIDS and talked about the infection, how it can happen to anyone without proper prevention and how the disease affects their lives.

“You don’t want the consequences. You don’t want to have to live with this everyday for the rest of your life,” Dana Deross said about HIV infection.

Deross spoke to the room of students honestly about the complications of the disease and echoed the other panelists by addressing protection, prevention and communication as the best ways to avoid STIs.

“What you do as a young person is going to come back and haunt you and bite you in the ass,” Deross said. “I don’t care if you’re going out for a one night stand, wrap it up.”

The theme of protection and communication carried over into the second workshop which was centered on the “Fifty Shades of Grey” book series and how it opened the community of bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism to the general public.

Professional dominant Mistress Shae led the BDSM-based discussion and spoke on how BDSM is not a group of sexual deviants — it is just a different way of expressing sexuality.

“A lot of people think they aren’t kinky, they use distancing language like ‘those people,’” Shae said, “but how many people like to have their hair pulled during sex?”

The mistress talked of sexual energy play and kinky fuckery as students shouted out sexual safe words such as chimichanga and ragamuffin and by the end of the talk, two students were flogged by the tightly-dressed mistress.

Students had their own questions clarified by asking them openly and anonymously and the talk helped dispel one professor’s preconceived notion of BDSM.

“It certainly softened my impression and [showed] that the [BDSM] community is diverse, more diverse than I thought,” Jessica Ayo Alabi, an instructor of sociology and gender studies said.

The talk centered on safety and consent and the mistress reiterated that BDSM requires hard boundaries and constant communication between partners — this  is the key to a safe and sexy BDSM experience, she said.

“The biggest thing is before they advance into more intense forms of play, read books, learn what they’re doing because safety is really paramount to everything. So is consent,” Shae said.

Students brought up fetishes and between nervous giggles delved into the mental and emotional side of sex, what the mistress called energy play.

“It makes the sex and love that much better, because when you add other things, you realize you don’t even need the penetration sex – you realize how mental the sex is,” Kaitlin Hubert, 20, a finance and business legal studies major said.

Sex Education Awareness Day had something for everyone as it made HIV/AIDS more approachable, offered free testing, showed the truth of STIs, taught safety and consent and even helped students spice up their love lives.

“Throw a little vibrating ring in, play a little dress up, take time going into sex, get sexy in lingerie and give him a lap dance, tease the shit out of him when you’re at dinner, make him wait for it,” Hubert said on how to spice up sex.

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